Boys Won't Stop Raping Girls.

I want to say yes, boys would keep raping girls. If that rattles your sensibilities, sorry but that is our modern day reality. Boys are raised to rape. Yes. Yes. Yes. 

And all of our 7 billion hash tags of " let's end rape would end nothing." Or tell me, do hash tags change the sexual orientation of a rapist? Does it invoke change and cleanse the mind from the need to dominate, to rule over another? How do hash tags solve our rape, abuse and violence against women's problem? How?

Does a rapist have a change of mind simply because you used a hash tag? When rapist read our social media chants do they leave the next girl/baby/toddler/child/teenager/adult/woman alone and not rape or abuse or oppress her?

Sadly some men who have violated other women in endless ways are passing the hashtag. And we say na wa o. E.g She slept at your place because it was too late to go home, and you went in pinning her down. She did say more than stop and she later left it at that,  because we would ask her, why did you sleep in house in the first place. Boy has tried his luck on 20+ more other girls/women.  

We are responsible for the change in our world, if we who are well see ourselves as carriers of lives and molders of destinies, we would live beyond giving and teaching and protecting just our own immediate family. 

We must confront our daddies who leave mummy alone to "mother"all the children. Whether confrontation means to you do it with everlasting wisdom. If we don't leave and bury the horribly superiority tradition that violates and oppresses the woman as a whole person, we would have more boys raping girls. 

My son is my son, and I would teach him and I would teach his friends too. I stand for change, better days that we make and I pledge to play my part so help me God.

Some weeks ago, we recently moved from a flat to a more modest face me I face you but the difference is clear. My life would always be a light no matter what or where I find myself. I would live for more. 

We must remember that we are raising a whole human being, not an entitled faggot. My son washes with me or his Dad (Even if we are using the washing machine) He cooks with me or his dad. He reads with me and we have and will discuss sex and mutual respect. Regularly. ( He is only eight .) I don't want to wait.  Today we would talk about abuse and talk about rape. The world is officially a delicate place to be. We must be wise as serpents and gentle as...

We must teach our sons to help at home. Little drops of water is what makes a mighty ocean. We must show them (all our Daddies who are well) That a man is not less a man if he is domesticated- if he helps sometimes to serve breakfast, somethings to sweep, and if he carries mummy's bag and doesn't tell her "keep quiet, I am still talking." Our little drops of water is making meaning for the ocean. 

Our parents in the past have trained boys to believe that boys should be served because they are the "masters" of the future home. We are in the future where many women are co-bread wimners. Our tradition of silence has given the approval and our sons are watching us. Our little drops are counting and the ocean is filling up.

Daddy is rude to Mummy, he hits her and comes home whenever he wants.  Boy learns and the circle of vilolence and abuse continues. Another son sees that Daddy would wait for Mummy to come back from the office and Daddy would never lift a finger even if he came home hours before Mummy  (Mummy is a virtuous woman and a virtuous woman must slave her ass off for the man and master of the home ). Daddy, our sons are watching us, and the little drops are filling the ocean. 

A man owns you and owns your money, haven't you heard that saying? Chai!!! Our sons are now entitled oppressors. Don't we see what we are breeding? Men who are users.  She must join hands to contribute in the families upkeep but a man is a man in his own home  and he can't be seen doing "minor things" but he owns her money. Our little drops are feeling the ocean. 

Please let us wake up and start healing this world we living in. We have a responsibility to teach our sons and We can break this cycle if we 'TEACH OUR SONS!' 

• Start with you and one more, and our world would be better for it. 

I am Imoleayo, and I write for change.